here it goes:
One Big Happy (Dysfunctional) Family
by John Fischer
The family that thrives is the one that can absorb conflict and failure and still exhibit love and acceptance at the end of the day. The family that fears its conflict and buries its unseemliness under a cloak of good impressions is the one that creates highly dysfunctional people who lug around suitcases of unresolved baggage and never get down to the real thing. Sometimes maintaining a happy family can be the worst thing you can do. It can drive a lot of powerful emotions underground, where they will eventually surface in unhealthy ways.
How much of being a Christian and going to church is all about appearances? Too much, at least in my experience. Too many of us act as if it were our responsibility to make God look good by showing ourselves as shiny happy people. In the end, we make God look bad, because we are dishonest in the worst sort of way; we are dishonest with ourselves. Do this long enough and you lose track of who you really are. I find that a lot of Christians get so far removed from who they are that they need professional counseling to help them face the truth about themselves. Most of this comes from getting good at living an impression rather than living the truth. We are too good for our own good.
Why is it that PKs and MKs (thats evangelical talk for preachers kids and missionary kids) always seem to have a reputation of being the most troubled kids in the church? Because pastors and missionaries have the most pressure on their families to maintain the best possible reputation. After all, isnt everyone looking to them to model the happy, successful Christian family? And so a disconnect develops between who we are and who we appear to be, and the wider that gulf, the more unhealthy the person.
How do we fix this? Give up pretext and love each other for the messes that we are. Isnt that the way God loves us? He sent His son to die for us while we were still in our sin, and that death is like a billboard for why we continually need Him (Galatians 3:1 NLT).
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Have you lost your senses? Paul wrote to the Galatians. After starting your Christian lives in the Spirit, why are you now trying to become perfect by your own human effort? (Galatians 3:3 NLT)
Our human effort always covers everything up. Our life in the spirit brings it all out into the open because Jesus died for this, so we wouldnt have to hide. Lets love each other for who we are, instead of trying so hard to be loved for who we are not.
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hmm hahas.. today is nus open house!! thgt that my tution was going to end late, in the end, it's didnt..hahas the open house was fun!! nearly follow the crowd blindly and wanted to alight at the wrong stop..rather amused at the signboard saying, " Please alight here.."..hahas..oh well..
nus is a huge place, in my opinion..:)hahas...open house was kinda a huge event, with nearly everyone giving out free stuff....and of course, we became typical Singaporeans..scooping stuff around..still liked that wristband...from the business school, exactly the colours i like..hmm after walking around, i kinda figured out what i wanna be...mathetican can be my later dream..but i think currently, my aim is to get into the business school, or to get into qualitative finance...i will...hahas...
rather frustrated with maths today..cant do it in the afternoon..love-hate relationship with it..hahas..
oh, after that, me, irwin, claire went to tiong bahru to eat..so funny la..coz we were carrying balloons like kids..and the balloons strings even tried to strangle me..here are some pics:
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oh well,...i wanna be my true self again..:)
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